How to Deal with Jealousy in Relationships

Bothered by the attention that your boyfriend or girlfriend gets from other people? Can't stand it when your sweetie's ex is around? Sounds like you've got a jealous streak.

If you do something foolish about it - like blame your boyfriend or girlfriend, or lash out at the ex - you're going to drive your sweetie away. Here are 5 ways to ward off those jealous thoughts.

1. Recognize Why You're Jealous

People will rarely go out of their ways tomake you feel jealous. Instead, jealousy in relationships usually comes from insecurity that you feel about yourself or about your relationship. When you feel a pang of jealousy, try to figure out what's really at the root of it. You'll probably find that solving the problem involves changing something about you rather than changing the way your girlfriend or the people around her act.

2. Build Up Your Self-Esteem

Confident people aren't jealous because they know they don't have a reason to be. Take a little time every day to do stuff that makes you feel good about yourself. When insecure thoughts enter your head, try to push them out. Little by little, your confidence will build, and you'll care less about what other people think.

3. Quit Comparing

You're probably tempted to compare yourself to the other girls in your boyfriend's life, and to keep double-checking to make sure your boyfriend thinks you're prettier and cooler than they are. Snap out of it! When it comes to dating, people can't be compared like that. No matter what your boyfriend's exes and female friends are like, he likes you for you.

4. Put Yourself in Other People's Shoes

If your girlfriend has an ex-boyfriend who wants her back, think about how you'd feel if you were him: probably pretty hopeless and depressed. You have more reason to feel bad for him than to be angry at him.

5. Remember that Acting Jealous Doesn't Help Anything

In fact, jealousy in relationships only makes things worse - especially if it changes the way you act around your boyfriend or girlfriend. Why ruin a perfectly good relationship with negative thoughts. So don,t permit it for the good of your relationship.

"Deal with your jealousy now before it kicks you out" 

Santi Carzola dubbed "The Magician"

Aaron Ramsey has praised the “little magician” Santi Cazorla after the Spaniard’s superb display against Manchester City on Sunday.

Cazorla has been in sumptuous form of late and crowned another exceptional performance with a goal and assist at the home of the Premier League champions.

Ramsey says he is overjoyed for his team-mate, and was pleased with the team’s all-round showing.
“Santi's a little magician on the pitch,” Ramsey told Arsenal Player.

“You saw him out there so many times, how he wriggles out of certain situations, and he had a very good game.

“We’re delighted for him and hopefully he can continue his form as well.

“It was obviously a good game for us. We defended really well as a team.

“We were really hard to break down and we took our chances when we needed to, so it was a very complete performance today.


“In the past we've been a bit too open at Manchester City. It’s been quite difficult for us in the last few years but we wanted to put things right and we definitely put in a good performance to come away with three points.”Ramsey enjoyed his return to action at Etihad Stadium, having missed the last six weeks due to injury.

“I felt good,” he added. “In the last 20 minutes I was blowing a bit and I had to come off with a bit of cramp but I’m pleased with how things have gone.

“Hopefully now I can get a few more games and start to kick on to have a strong finish to the season.”